Anniversary dating one year
Reading cuddled up next to your partner all night is one of my favorite activities in the world.
It affords the opportunity to do number 8 — be quiet alongside your partner — while also having the added comfort of touching your partner's skin and smelling their scent but not actively engaging with them. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?
Of course, I'm not gunning for that outcome for anyone, but if it's going to happen, it's best to know that in the first year. I'm no longer terrified of fighting with my partner, though, mostly because I've learned that a conflict every now and then is OK, and even healthy, as long as you're with someone who truly wants to work it out (and doesn't just want to fight for the sake of fighting).
But it's important to be able to just sit together and enjoy a meal, the sounds of Schubert tinkling from a record player in the corner, a half moon slowly creeping higher in the sky.
Or sit side by side on public transportation and watch the stops pass. When this feels good — and not awkward or sad — you're in a healthy place.
One of my favorite questions in a fight: "What are you upset about right now?
" If both sides can express this, and then discuss what they say, and really hear each other, the fight might be over sooner rather than later. I wouldn't suggest that this happens in the first few months, unless your partner's parents live down the street from them, or you live with your parents, or some similar arrangement. Point is, it's a good idea to go to a big family or friend gathering with your partner in the first year.