Teenage dating rules
They've probably been hanging out with friends of both sexes and doing things as a group, but they may be thinking about one-on-one dating.
It's time to talk about the different types of relationships and love and to prepare to set rules for dating.
I spent my money on long-distance phone calls that went unreturned and allowed myself to be a second choice to everything else in his life. Instead of spending my thought life on this guy, I wish 17-year-old Melanie would have invested all that time and energy in herself.
I gave my heart away far too easily and allowed myself to be hurt (over and over again). I wish she’d made college decisions based on what God was telling her instead of what someone else was. ’ I have learned so much and there are lessons I want to spare my daughter, and my son when he’s ready, from having to learn firsthand.
To be clear, I don’t regret dating then because the boy was a jerk. I simply wasn’t ready for it and sometimes, I wasn’t very nice to him.
Despite being a very mature young lady in every other way, in this emotional area I simply was not and I wasn’t prepared to deal with the emotions.
It also means being available and open to ongoing conversations.
Even though they can make many decisions on their own, teens still need boundaries from you.
As your children grow up, it's normal for them to think about having a boyfriend or girlfriend.
So I didn’t deal and I wasn’t always so kind to him.
He and I are friends now, so it seems like he’s forgiven me (or just plain forgot because it was 500 years ago), but still I feel like it would have been better had I waited to reach a certain level of maturity before dating.
Two school years later, I was dating someone else and in a woefully unhealthy fashion, I made my life about this guy (he, however, the jerk in this relationship).
He needed rescuing from his bad choices and I convinced myself I was somehow the perfect rescuer.